This brought an end to era of traditional dating and mannerism. I married an active, energetic woman. My wife found herself depressed after my son was born. Put bluntly, why would women want to get married now? For the same amount, though, you could get an amazing holiday with first-class flights round the world, a nice car, a deposit on an apartment or a wardrobe of Savile Row suits. My wife is currently out a Wal Mart buying worthless plastic s~~~. Look, the problem starts with girls playing with Barbie. And although pretending to make them with Bar Skank 86 can be a lot of fun, knocking her up is decidedly not.
Court battles and false cases often destroy their entire career and future prospects. She has 3 masses on her spleen,lung, and spine. The grass looks greener on other side. That is automatic disaster, no exceptions. She must have thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck.
She has resisted years of efforts to attend counselling, talk about our dysfunctional relationship in private, try new ideas, you name it. The ultimately led to marriages. Over 50% of marriages in this country end in divorce. The media too got overboard with portraying husbands and fathers as unnecessary and deadbeat. No need for divorce if you never marry. Of course, there are also societal reasons that compound the power dynamics that results from this biological reality.
In today's culture, father never knows best. Meanwhile, I blow through my income buying her the house she wants, the vacations she wants, and so on. . They don't blab all around town that the two of you are an item, nor do they tell their friends about your sexual exploits. Then the sex stops, then the nagging and pestering and arguing starts. Early in my marriage I found that I got the best behavior from my wife immediately after a fight in which I raised my voice and told her with authority that her behavior was not appropriate. I can have a perfect relationship without marriage.
You totally discredit yourself by suggesting a retreat mentality. But they all have a friend that does, who drives the flashy Mercedes, and who seems to have a real life Ken that replaces the initial wedding ring with the bigger and sparkly one. What we are seeing in current society is a complete destruction of traditional roles. But the house is paid for as are the cars. Traditionally men had three major requirements from women.
However, they have much less than men who are living with their partners outside of marriage. If a better deal comes along she will instantly and without remorse dump the less wealthy or attractive man, and she will have the full backing of the modern totalitarian police state to take half the money and possessions of the man she betrayed. When we had our first child she replaced me with the child. You kid yourself if you think you can avoid this by giving in — that just makes the behaviour worse while causing her to lose respect for you. Once when I brought up the possibility of having sex, yes a weak moment, she again complained about how she is always exhausted not tired. With improved effectiveness and availability of contraception and abortion, marrying because of a pregnancy is less common. Elsewhere on this site, Justin Jackson has put together a list of the , but his list will tremble in fear before the indisputable correctness of my Top 10: Reasons To Get Married.
However patriarchal it may sound but men just cannot help but feel emasculated in a submissive relationship. Your incredibly selfish, narcissistic outlook on life will, no doubt, one day, be repaid in full. She pouted for about 2 weeks claiming I was controlling everything. David Buss et al that I linked to in an earlier comment. When married, men's ties with friends from school and work tend to fade. If you want more men to marry, it needs to be a more attractive proposition.
Marriage is definitely a partnership, but both partners must acknowledge that gender roles are absolutely necessary to make it work. Afraid to commit to the wrong crazyass chick. I walked around with her while she tried on several different very expensive outfits. Obviously the good part of it was that it liberated women from traditional gender roles but then it liberated men too. I ended up breaking it off with her completely. You are not accountable to him if you want to see a male or past lover. I provided the income; she stayed home.
Just finished reading this thread. This in some way very much related to the age people get married. What kind of respect, what kind of trust is that? Marriage makes you feel complete and responsible. And I have read this entire thread. I run 4x a week, and she inhales Dove bars.